People often talk about the importance of community and, to be honest, that’s me, too. But the thing that gets missed is that there is a difference between being in proximity to other people and being in relationship with them. Realistically, reconnection emphasizes the importance of that second part.
Some of us have wide circles of friends, and we spend time with them. Maybe it’s watching sports games, or going on hikes, or traveling together. Maybe it’s your drinking or poker buddies. Most likely, though, those folks are not your 4am-I’m-in-the-hospital phone calls. And if they are, they might not be the “I’m really scared of this thing I won’t tell anyone else about, can you help me?” ones.
Those are the ones that fulfill this R.
These are the people who remember who you are when you’ve forgotten. Some of them may change throughout your life, but we implore you to make sure you always have a few folks that fit this R.
Honestly, we are each other’s, and we share a few other people, but we also each have others. They’ve changed in the years we’ve known each other, too. Each of us have met people and lost touch with others. But we’re careful to always have people who can hold us as we crumble.
We hope that for you, too. In some ways, this might be the most important R, because once you tell your people that you want to mind your well-being more, they’re going to make sure you do it. It’s the beauty of having people, not proximity.
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